I’ve been diagnosed with depression, and my mom recently had me start therapy again. But I have some social issues that may related, may be nothing important, or may be a different disorder…
I get really terrified when I’m around people. I just finished high school, but when I was still in school, I had a lot of problems. I had/have no friends, I would get to school 45 minutes early just to avoid walking by large groups of people, I would eat lunch in the band room every day just to avoid being around people (and because I had no friends to sit with), I would feel a lot of panic whenever I was in the halls and people were around me, and I’d panic and not know what to say if someone tried to talk to me.
Also, if someone was talking to me (or in group work), I would mumble, my mind would go blank, I’d stutter, talk really quietly, and I’d overall look like an idiot. During group projects, I’d often ask to go to the bathroom to avoid having to do it, and if the teachers didn’t assign us groups, I’d usually be too afraid to ask anyone to be in their group. So I’d sit in my seat looking around for anyone else to come over until the teacher just put me in a group herself.
If I absolutely have to do a presentation, I mumble, my mind goes blank, I talk really quietly, I sometimes twitch (specifically the left side of my mouth), I shake, I feel nauseous, and I just panic.
I can’t even talk on the phone without taking up a ton of time to work up the courage and panicking. My mind goes blank too. I even have a ton of trouble ordering food at restaurants.
Is this anything to be worried about? It’s really getting in the way of my living a normal life, and probably getting past my depression. I always feel horrible whenever I’m in public…I haven’t left my house once since summer vacation started a week ago, except for a music lesson. But I’m afraid to bring it up to my therapist if it’s not that important…What does it sound like it might be, if anything? I’m sorry for the excessive detail.
It sounds like you’re worried people won’t accept you, and you’re afraid of getting hurt/rejected. It’s normal, just maybe not as extreme. You could be depressed from lack of socialization, but you should confront your fears, let your guard down, and try to name friends. I know it’s not as easy as it sounds, but focus on staying calm, and reminding yourself that no one is going to embarrass you or whatever you’re afraid of. Theripists are good, because right there is practice in talking and trusting someone. It’s okay to be shy, but if you’re to introverted, you may come off as… not threatening, but unapproachable. People aren’t judging you, or not making friends with you because thay don’t like you, but because you won’t give them a chance or try and connect with them. Going away to college and becoming more self suffiecient and living in a dorm would be really good for you, and the smaller the school, the closer you’ll get to people. I’m finishing up my final year at boarding school next year, and the girls and guys of the school have become my family. Hope this helped some ")
*I suffer from anxiety disorder and depression, too, and no therepist or medication will make it go away, it’s really up to you. People with anxiety disorders and depression have to work a lot harder–an unfair amount–to take control of thier lives, but it’s possible. Theripists and meds can help, but ultimatly, it’s up to you
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Sounds like you may some panic disorder along with the depression. Talk to your therapist about it.
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Talk to your thereapist, I agree. Could be social anxiety with panic disorder.
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your just shy and need to open up
just be social no need to panic
feel free to express yourself dont worry
you’ll be my friend
And Jesus too pray to him he makes ways
and they’re good dont be depressed
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Yes, Yes, I agree.
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Sounds like you suffer from anxiety, you sould definitely talk to your therapist about how you feel and she’ll be able to help you manage it.
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It sounds like you’re worried people won’t accept you, and you’re afraid of getting hurt/rejected. It’s normal, just maybe not as extreme. You could be depressed from lack of socialization, but you should confront your fears, let your guard down, and try to name friends. I know it’s not as easy as it sounds, but focus on staying calm, and reminding yourself that no one is going to embarrass you or whatever you’re afraid of. Theripists are good, because right there is practice in talking and trusting someone. It’s okay to be shy, but if you’re to introverted, you may come off as… not threatening, but unapproachable. People aren’t judging you, or not making friends with you because thay don’t like you, but because you won’t give them a chance or try and connect with them. Going away to college and becoming more self suffiecient and living in a dorm would be really good for you, and the smaller the school, the closer you’ll get to people. I’m finishing up my final year at boarding school next year, and the girls and guys of the school have become my family. Hope this helped some ")
*I suffer from anxiety disorder and depression, too, and no therepist or medication will make it go away, it’s really up to you. People with anxiety disorders and depression have to work a lot harder–an unfair amount–to take control of thier lives, but it’s possible. Theripists and meds can help, but ultimatly, it’s up to you
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Sarah it sounds like you have a really bad case of anxiety. In your last paragraph you said that it’s really getting in the way of you living a normal life, so then my answer is YES, it is VERY important and I highly suggest you bring it up to your therapist. It could very well be that you suffer from anxiety, or lack of self-confidence or self-esteem which you should deal with as well. Think about it, if you ever want to have a job and be a functioning member of society, you have to be able to interact with people. Ask yourself these questions: Do you think you’re pretty? Do you think you’re sexy? Do you feel good or comfortable in the clothes you wear? If you answer "no" to all of those kinds of questions then it’s quite obvious that your anxiety when you’re around people is caused by a lack of self-esteem. But you shouldn’t feel that way because everyone is beautiful and unique in their own way. You said you just finished high school so I know you are a young woman whose life into the real world is just beginning. This is the best time to take care of these issues Sarah, talk to your therapist about it. If it is true that you don’t have enough confidence or self-esteem, your therapist will guide you with exercises and all sorts of different things to help you with that. If it’s just anxiety and not a self-confidence issue, your therapist will definitely have something in mind for that as well. But please do mention it to him/her, thats what they get paid for and these are the kinds of issues they probably deal with the most. Like I said since you just got out of high school and now you’re gonna go on to college or start working, now is the perfect time to take care of it, I know you can and will : )
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